Alternative facts

I recently read one family historian’s method for gleaning her father-in-law’s stories: she would write questions on slips of paper and put them in a Mason jar. When her father-in-law visited, he’d choose one slip and question from the jar, and she would write down whatever story he told. It’s the kind of method I wish I’d thought of to entice my reticent family to talk!

We are always encouraged to ask our living family members about their personal stories, and in so doing we must take what they choose to tell. In recording these stories for posterity, however, we often must weigh the truth of what we’re told against what facts we might have, realizing that those facts might completely change the color and substance of the story and our perception of the teller.

I do not refer to hurtful, damaging lies here – no distortions of the facts used to cover an unpleasant truth, but to those innocent fabrications and prevarications that people often tell for self-aggrandizement, to be more politically correct, or to just tell a good, entertaining story. As Samuel Johnson said, “A jest breaks no bones.”[1]

For example, Percy Griffin (1911–2006) was a quintessential Yankee storyteller, quick of wit and humor. He loved to tell a good story, even if he had an audience of only one, and loved to weave the absurd into each of them. If you missed it, he was happy; if you called him on it, he was delighted. One of his favorite stories concerned his ride home in a blizzard one night when he was “less than able” to guide his horse. His punch line was always that the horse found its way home through the driving snow, and stopped only when its nose touched the home-barn door. Percy’s stories were always humorous, entertaining, and credible because they never varied, and even now his grandchildren can recite them verbatim as he told them. There was almost always someone else to verify his exploits, but no written record to check.

Except he wasn’t, he didn’t, and none of those exploits happened.

Elmer F. (1916–1993) was a pilot in the Army Air Corps during World War II, with a fund of stories of his escapades in that time. For example, he once flew a B-17 under the Brooklyn Bridge, and as punishment was assigned to flying night patrol at an altitude of only 50’ along the Rio Grande River, searching for possible German spies walking along the banks. He also flew a B-25 Mitchell to Alaska with his crew as part of the diversion for Doolittle’s Raid.

Except he wasn’t, he didn’t, and none of those exploits happened. Elmer was a corporal, not a pilot (i.e., an officer), in World War II, and while he was in the U.S. Army Air Forces (from 1943 to 1946; the Army Air Corps was folded into the U.S. Army Air Forces in 1941), he was a mechanic cross-trained as a gunner and radio operator.[2] The stories were told only to family, and never used in any official capacity. This is a different set of alternative facts, easily accepted by family. (“Why would he lie?”)

The truth came to light after his death when his military records were ordered for his widow’s benefits application. However, Elmer, an electrician by occupation, in later civilian life was indeed a pilot, and a good one. His family can tell true, first person stories of his managing his M Series Cessna 310 out of a Bermuda Triangle vortex, and of his skill in flying if things went wrong with the airplane (my kind of pilot!). All concerned lived to tell those tales. The truth didn’t change how the family saw Elmer, but instead added color to an already interesting personality.

The real story is not always accepted while the “alternative facts” are preferred. Sometimes the storytellers will steadfastly cling to a story as fact despite all evidence to the contrary. One elderly San Francisco woman, a Roman Catholic proud of her French ancestry, asked me to trace her father’s ancestors to prove her direct lineage from Bishop Alemany of San Francisco,[3] a story she loved to repeat. I traced and confirmed her surname, Alemany, and paternal line to Spain in the 1500s, a line which did not include the good bishop.

Instead, I found a fascinating story of Sephardic Jews repeatedly fleeing Spain and its Inquisition to live in Algiers (her father had actually been born there). She was unimpressed, insisting “that was a long time ago,” and that she was directly related to Bishop Alemany, ignoring the likelihood that the good Bishop most likely had neither progeny nor direct connection to her family.

She was unimpressed, insisting “that was a long time ago”…

There are so many reasons why people “prevaricate” in this harmless, sometimes confusing, and often entertaining way that it’s hard to decide how to handle these “family stories” when we’re confronted by them. What to do with these “alternative facts?”

I write them down as they’re told as part of the whole story, part of the family narrative, adding nonjudgmental color and depth to our ancestors’ lives without rewriting family history. Sorting out the alternative facts from the truth is part of the challenge of family history research. Whether or not they are ever further repeated is another decision, another consideration of whether or not the revelation of the untruth will be received as just another story, an anecdote that will cause laughter accompanied by a knowing shake of the head and a nod of understanding.

In some families, one can get a headache from all that understanding!


[1] Samuel Johnson, Boswell’s Life of Dr. Johnson.

[2] DD214 Enlisted Record and Report of Separation Honorable Discharge; historians will note that Doolittle’s Raid took place in April 1942, a year before Elmer enlisted.

[3] Joseph Sadoc Alemany y Conill, O.P. (3 July 1814–14 April 1888), first Archbishop of San Francisco 1853–84.

About Jan Doerr

Jan Doerr received a B.A. degree in Sociology/Secondary Education from the University of New Hampshire, and spent a long career in the legal profession while researching her family history. She has recently written and published articles for’s Cognoscenti blog: “Labor of Love: Preserving a 226-Year-Old Family Home and Preparing to Let It Go” and “The Value of Family Heirlooms in a Digital Age.” Jan currently lives with her attorney husband in Augusta, Maine, where she serves two Siamese cats and spends all her retirement money propping up a really old house.

6 thoughts on “Alternative facts

  1. The family story goes that Grandfather Carl Mead’s body went by casket in a train from Miami to Salem, Indiana in April 1945, but the train had to wait for FDR’s casket train to pass. There are images of people standing by the tracks to watch FDR’s train pass. The family knows Grandpa Mead never liked FDR. I searched the times to the best of my ability, and the timing does not work out. The family story is so alluring, but was not true. I learned so much by investigating this family story.

  2. I have friends who believe stories about their ancestors that simply couldn’t be true (times and places just don’t work out). Some of these stories are so ingrained that they are never checked. We tend to rely on Prime Sources (“from the horse’s mouth”) but there is no leeway given for storytellers with a great imagination.

  3. I was blessed with a dad who was a big-time story teller, so I know tons of stories about his family and the small town in Ohio where he grew up. One story that particularly interested me was about the death of his maternal grandfather. In an effort to get the most complete story possible, I also asked Dad’s five siblings to tell me what they knew about how Horace had died, each separately from the others. There were slight variations among the stories, but some main facts were always the same. A man (bum or crazy neighbor or drunk townsman) came to their home saying he was hungry and was offered a meal. He later got into a fight with Horace’s older sons when they tried to get him to leave. Horace intervened and was kicked really hard in the side by the man, who was eventually subdued and tied to a chair until he calmed down and then left the house. After several days the pain where Horace had been kicked became unbearable. The doctor came, did an operation on the dining room table immediately, but it was too late to save Horace because his appendix had burst. It was interesting that the story ended with the identical final statement, no matter who told the story. “The family always knew that really he had been murdered. It was exactly the same thing as if he had been murdered.”

    But–Horace’s death certificate gives the cause of death as “pharangyties”, inflammation of the throat. What? Perhaps a ruptured appendix could have caused systemic infection, with a throat inflammation impairing his breathing and being the immediate cause of death listed by the doctor.

  4. Ah yes. Stories. My father-in-law lived with us for many years and we heard stories of long ago. One was of an incident that occurred during a family reunion picnic. Years later, an uncle told a story of the same incident and we shook our heads in wonder. Neither of them was telling a lie. Both were telling what happened as they perceived it.

  5. Ah, yes, I remember well the stories told by my Uncle Nels. We didn’t see him often, but my whole family always looked forward to his stories. A rancher in Montana who never got a crop in–this part was true–he ended up as a grain inspector for the county. I remember as a child sitting bug eyed at his story of leaning against the shady side of a grain elevator taking a bit of a nap after lunch one hot day, tobacco chaw in one cheek. He woke suddenly when he heard the rattlesnake’s buzz, then felt the bite on one cheek. Feeling no real pain, he went back to work; his wife made him go to the doctor when she saw the bite after work. The doctor couldn’t figure out why he wasn’t dead until he looked in his mouth and saw the venom foaming in the chaw of tobacco. We didn’t know whether or not to believe Uncle Nels, and he was insulted.

    Another story he told over and over, about watching deer flying over fences, while antelope crawled under them. It was so improbable, we didn’t believe that either. Years later, I read in a science book that that story was true. The next time I saw him, I apologized for not having believed him. He was grossly insulted that I couldn’t tell his tall tales from the truth!

  6. I got a chuckle or two from this vita-brevis posting. I used to work with a man who was a story teller and when he was called on a story he would say something to the affect, well, it probably happened to someone somewhere.
    The lady in San Francisco I really got a chuckle over. When the facts don’t agree with the story, dispose of the facts.

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