ICYMI: A helping hand

[Editor’s note: This blog post originally appeared in Vita Brevis on 30 March 2015.]

Chris Child helping Jean get started in the 4th floor library at NEHGS.
Chris Child helping Jean get started in the 4th floor library at NEHGS.

Before I began researching my ancestry, I was overwhelmed by the undertaking. It seemed like an impossible task that would take up all my time — trying to make sense of all those great-great-great-greats with their shifting residences, repeating names, and overlapping dates. I’ve always been bad with numbers and dates, and tend to be distracted by anything new and exciting, so my past attempts at uncovering information about my ancestors have resulted in a confusing game of Internet hopscotch through random records I couldn’t really understand concerning people to whom I may or may not have been related. I had convinced myself that I was uniquely ill equipped for genealogical research.

But kind fate reached out a helping hand in the form of my friend and colleague Chris Child. Not only is Chris a really nice guy, he’s one of the smartest people I’ve ever met, and a legend in the genealogical community. He offered to help me begin and guide me through my research. I accepted immediately, before he could change his mind.

“I just don’t know where to begin,” I said.

Later that same week, Chris and I met in the fourth floor library at NEHGS, home of our Vital Records indexes. “I just don’t know where to begin,” I said. But Chris did. He logged onto one of our library computers and pulled up a blank family tree program. “That’s easy,” he reassured me. “We begin with you.”

Step one.
Step one.

Entering that first piece of information felt satisfying. I had finally taken the plunge. But I couldn’t remember the birth dates or places of either parent, only that both were in Massachusetts. Chris was not concerned; he said it was a good opportunity to delve into the Internet databases, by searching for people I’d known whose life events would be familiar.

We began with my father, who died when I was twelve. Chris consulted the Social Security and Massachusetts Death Indexes, where he quickly located my father and determined that he was born and died in Massachusetts. Seeing the death certificate was jarring. I felt a rush of love, longing, and tenderness. I knew then why so many people consider family history research an important part of their lives, and also, perhaps, why I made so many excuses to avoid it myself — all these years later, I still miss my parents. Seeing their names in these records is hard. But I’m ready now to turn that pain into something meaningful.

From the information gleaned in the death index, we were able to move to the Massachusetts Birth Index, and then the 1930 federal census. Suddenly the process became very exciting. My tree filled with names I remembered from my dad’s stories — his beloved mother, who died young; his grandfather, a police officer killed in the line of duty. In the space of an hour we went back five generations, adding images of documents for me to peruse later. And finally I felt that thrill I’ve heard my genealogist friends describe all these years — the hour was up, but I could have kept searching all day.

About Jean Powers

Jean provides editing, writing, design, illustration, and creative and strategic concepts for a variety of marketing, development, educational, and outreach projects. She assists on American Ancestors magazine, The Weekly Genealogist newsletter, the Great Migration Study Project, and our Facebook page.

7 thoughts on “ICYMI: A helping hand

  1. Thank you for sharing this heartwarming journey! I know exactly how you felt as the doors of connection began to swing open! The fun has just begun!

  2. I am happy for you, but just want to mention that it is not so easy for everyone. I recently became acquainted with an African-American cousin who may be descended from an 8x gr grandfather who was a slave owner on Long Island, NY. She has pored over old ledgers and other records and there is sufficient evidence that there was a relationship. But she had to spend years constructing the story that will not have those easy birth, baptismal, marriage and death certificates that most of us are lucky to have in our trees.

    1. I’m very grateful for the relative ease of my research and especially for the help of my skilled colleagues. Is your friend a member of NEHGS? We have experts in many fields here. My colleague Meaghan E.H. Siekman specializes in African American research. She blogs on Vita Brevis and for The Root.

  3. Jean, I love your voyage of discovery, and I am sure you will continue to find many more interesting folks in your pedigree along the way if you haven’t already. No doubt you will find a few brick walls like we all have and do, but you have a great attitude which can only help you in breaking them down. I hope you will share more about your family. You have so much to be proud of. – Your grandfather’s life honors us all.

    You are blessed to work with the best of the best at N.E.H.G.S. – and you could not be more right about Chris! – Don’t forget though that they are all fortunate to have you as a part of the team!

    Have a great 4th of July. We are 240 years old and going strong!
    Happy researching!


  4. Sometimes it does take a good friend to guide you into genealogy. I’d like to think that I’ve helped some friends of mine. Nice story!

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